I was told today that there would be an engagement/marriage celebration at my old neighbors house. The number one thing to get for any event like this is a giant tent the covers half the road and shades the whole yard (I've even seen people cut down trees to fit the tent in their yard). The second most important food cooked in giant South African sized quantities - one large pot of pap coming right up!
The details of this event were a little uncertain, but I remembered a
Lobolo ceremony happening there about 2 years ago so figured it was connected to that. It turned out to be a wedding ceremony for Kanisilie, the women who lives there. Now I'd always assumed that Kanisillie was married to Joe who lives in the house (but doesn't seem to be the father of the two kids there). Of all the houses on my old street the family situation in this one seemed to be the most similar to my upbring and the prototypical American family: there was an adult male, adult female, and two kids under 10. It never occurred to me that Kanisillie and Joe might not be married. Just another reminder about how little I actual know about the world that surrounds me.